You have dreams and goals like everyone. You start projects, full of enthusiasm and excitement which fizzles out, or maybe you just dream about them and don’t even get started. Then you become frustrated or even angry with yourself. What’s holding you back? Any of these sound or feel familiar?
Fear is one of the main causes that keeps us stuck and small. Fear holds us back and is one of the reasons people don’t go after what they really want. Fear of, rejection, fear of failure, fear of ridicule, fear of disappointment, or fear of change are just some of the reasons that hold us back and keep us stuck. Ask yourself, “what is the worst thing that can happen?”. Put your fear into perspective.
2. LACK OF SELF-BELIEF.
If we hold negative and limiting self-beliefs, they will hold us back. When we try something new, it’s only natural to feel a little apprehensive. I remember, with hilarity, the first time I put on a pair of skis. It was a body bruising, but a comic experience! I even became hooked, and extremely proficient with practice.
Stop taking yourself too seriously or worrying about what other people may think. Believing in yourself will go a long way toward achieving your dreams and goals. Remember, the master was once a student.
How many times have you said when A B or C happens I’ll be able to do X Y and Z? Waiting until you have all your ducks in a row, before taking any action, will just keep you stuck and unable to move forward and take action. There is never a ‘right’ time, there is only NOW! If you feel you aren’t ready or good enough, or too old or too young, you are right. Change your self-belief to that of believing you are ready, you are more than good enough and age has nothing to do with your dreams and goals.
4. FORM A PLAN.
Without a plan, you can easily get lost along the way, which will lead to frustration, anger, and perhaps even abandoning your dream.
Write down your goal(s) and then the steps that are needed to bring it to life. What do you need and what do you need to do to achieve my goal? For example, do you need the help of others, if so who? What finances are needed, do you have them? If not how can you acquire them?
A plan will help to keep you on track to achieve your goals.
5. TAKE ACTION
There is no point in having a plan if you fail to action the steps that are on it. The plan is there to help you stay on track, to get to your goal, and to avoid you doing things that are only going to be a temporary step and side-track you from your main objective, your goal.
If you are a visual person, you could record the plan on a whiteboard, or similar, and mark off every time an action is completed. I find this kind of evidence extremely encouraging.
6. REVIEW AND TWEAK
Goals by their nature can take some time to achieve so it’s important to regularly review your progress and, if necessary, make the appropriate adjustments. If you fail to review your progress you won’t know where you are in the grand scheme of things, or what is or what is not working to reach your goal.
7. LACK OF FOCUS
As Theodore Roosevelt said, “nothing worth having comes easy”. Success is not a straight-line trajectory, it comes with ups and downs, and sometimes a lot of them. It can feel like a rollercoaster!
When you hit a brick wall, perhaps you’re pulling in a million directions or you’re feeling overwhelmed, it can be easy to lose focus and take your eye off the prize (goal). Stop letting a lack of focus steal your dream, go back to your plan and take the next step.
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