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Hi!  I’m Marie Fraser, the Self-Confidence and Reinvention Coach 

As Women, we skillfully and unselfishly play many different roles every single day without a second thought.  Without question, we attend to the wants and needs of the people we love and care for, often to the detriment of our own wants and needs.   We hold down jobs or run our own businesses whilst juggling dozens of other spinning plates.  We are in fact super-heroines!  The sad thing is, we don’t recognise or acknowledge that because what we do becomes automatic and who we are.   That’s when we lose sight of the person we really are, not giving ourselves any time or attention and running on auto-pilot.

Then, out of the blue, we get a sideways swipe, a major life event happens.  Perhaps something dramatic like an affair, a divorce, other relationship issues, a partner starts to work from home, a disability, a redundancy, or empty-nesting to name a few.   We try and make sense of it, we wonder what happened to that 24-year-old?  Where did she go?  How did she end up here without noticing the loss of the past few decades?

Everything feels alien and you realise how much time was wasted being somebody else.  We feel scared, stuck, anxious and lost.  We are looking at a crossroad and wondering who the bloody hell we are, what our purpose is, and which direction we should take.   I know, I was that woman! 

I’ve been around the block a few times, having worked in high powered demanding corporate positions, endured a long term toxic relationship, culminating in an extremely acrimonious divorce and I’m a survivor of narcissistic abuse.

I’m the mother of a special needs disabled son and have walked paths that have caused me stress, grief, anxiety, trauma, overwhelm, and which have shattered my self-confidence and self-esteem.

Today as a certified life coach, clinical hypnotherapist, and advanced rapid transformational therapist, I combine all these skills with my own personal experiences and have the privilege of inspiring and supporting women to find the courage to reveal and revel in their true selves.

Women who want to re-ignite and maintain their self-confidence and self-esteem, who want to find their purpose and passion, women who want to be the best they can be,  women who want to achieve their dreams and goals, and live their best life and more without spending years in therapy!

My personal values are courage, fun, freedom, justice, and authenticity, they are the core of who I am and what I bring to my practice.

There are many coaches and therapists out there and it’s really important that you find the right one for you.  I know I can’t help every single person and that’s why I offer a free absolutely no obligation 30-minute chat to see whether we are a good fit and I’m the right person for you.  It’s important that you feel safe and secure with the person to whom you are revealing your hopes, dreams, and desires. 

Book a call and let’s chat. 

Why Self-Confidence and Self-Esteem are vital ingredients for a happy life!!

cont, mYour degree of confidence, called self-confidence, is the trust or faith that you have in yourself and your abilities.  Self-esteem is the opinion you have of yourself.

Realistic feelings of confidence and positive self-esteem affect how you think and act, how you feel about yourself, how you feel about others and how successful you are in life.  Having self-confidence does not mean that you can do everything.  Self-confident people have realistic expectations.  Even when some of their expectations are not met, they continue to be positive and to accept themselves. 

As well as being positive, confident people are more likely to take risks in life, because they trust and believe in themselves

and their abilities, leading them to become much more successful in all areas of their life.

We are all born confident.  Toddlers and little people are full of confidence in themselves and their abilities.  Learning to walk, they don’t give up after the thousandth attempt, they persevere, get back up and carry on.  They love all the attention showered on them.  They are happy to run around naked or in their nappy without giving a second thought to their little chubby thighs or full nappy.   Children are more than happy to proudly show their little drawings to all and sundry without fear of embarrassment or ridicule.

Our life’s experiences and how we handle them are as unique as we are.  But if you have been subjected to consistent negative experiences, you are highly likely to suffer from a lack of self-confidence and low self-esteem.    Here are a few examples:

  • The way we were treated in our family of origin, which can affect us long after childhood. If you had parents who consistently belittled you, compared you to others, or told you that you would never amount to anything, you are extremely likely to carry those messages today.
  • Emotional abuse. This takes place on a psychological level and includes belittling, constant criticism, controlling, blaming and scapegoating.  Narcissistic manipulation is extremely damaging to your confidence and self-esteem.
  • Childhood bullying can leave a mark on your confidence as can humiliating experiences in adulthood. This can make you less willing to speak up for yourself and lead to people-pleasing behaviours.
  • Another form of faulty thinking is perfectionism which hugely contributes to a lack of confidence.

How does this happen you might ask, if we are all born confident?  The human brain is made up of hundreds of billions of neural pathways making trillions of neural connections.  Imagine your brain as a road map and when you are a baby it’s a map of cycle tracks.  As you grow, learn and experience life, more cycle tracks are formed and as you practice these new skills, behaviours and beliefs the cycle tracks become deeper and wider, turning into seven-lane motorways.

For example, when you start learning to drive it’s scary, your clutch control is pretty ropey and heaven forbid you’re on a narrow road with another car approaching from the opposite direction.  But after lots of practice, you become much more confident and begin to drive without apprehension and then, before too long, the procedure becomes so automatic you hardly think about it, you just do it.  Have you ever reached your destination and wondered how you got there?

Conversely, if you are or have been subjected to negative experience(s), like humiliation, belittling, manipulation etc., for any length of time, new neural pathways (cycle tracks) will form and if the experience is consistent these neural pathways will become stronger to the extent that you will start to believe that you are, for example, not good enough, not lovable enough, or you are stupid and undeserving.  These negative and untrue beliefs will of course diminish your self-confidence and self-esteem and affect your happiness.

Grab a cuppa and book a complimentary call here

to find out if I’m the right person for you. 

Your Path to a Happier and More Fulfilled Life!!

Two Month Coaching 

6 x 1-hour Coaching Sessions

4 x 20 minute extra encouragement calls

Email access to Marie between sessions

Three Month Coaching

9 x 1-hour Coaching Sessions

6 x 20-minute extra encouragement calls

Email access to Marie between sessions

Three Month Personal Coaching and Therapy Programme.

Month One

1 x 60-minute consultation

1 bespoke therapy* 1-1 session

(Allow 2 hours)

1 bespoke hypnosis recording

3 x 45-minute support sessions

(1 session per week)

Email access to Marie

Month Two

4 x 60-minute

1-1 high-value coaching sessions

(1 session per week)

Email access to Marie

2 x 15-minute telephone

support calls (if needed)

Month Three

4 x 60-minute

1-1 high-value coaching sessions

(1 session per week)

Email access to Marie

3 x 15-minute telephone

support calls (if needed)

1 x 40-minute sign-off session

*Therapy sessions are highly effective and successful to re-frame self-sabotaging beliefs, habits and behaviours.   Depending on each individual it may well be that a second therapy session is advised.  If this is so, subject to your approval, a second therapy session will be undertaken in month three and substituted for one coaching session.

These packages are available for the following topics:

*         Women who are going through big transitions, who are looking forward and who want to                     move on quickly and effectively with the help and support of a cheerleader to achieve their                   successful transition.

*         Women who want to find the courage to Reveal and Revel in their true selves.

*         Women who have been through or are going through a relationship break-up.

*         Women who have been subjected to or affected by narcissistic abuse.

       Divorced or single women who want to find love.

*         Women who have had enough of being stuck, lost or who are at a crossroads in their life, and               want to rediscover who the hell they are with clarity and confidence.

       Women who want to reignite their purpose and passion with invincible self-confidence, but                 don’t know where to start.

       Women who struggle with their relationships with their children.

I also provide bespoke programmes specifically tailored to your individual needs around Self-

Confidence and Self-Esteem.  Drop me an email or book a call for more information.

BOOK YOUR CALL

Praise for Marie

“I contacted Marie after separating from my husband.

I had a lot of anger issues towards men – starting with my father.  I knew these had contributed to the breakdown of the relationships, and to the separation from husband and I wanted to do something about it so I would learn to navigate those terrains better and live a happier life. 

I am also the mum of young boys and I was extremely aware that my negative attitude towards men would be detrimental to them in many ways.  I always tried to be positive about their gender in front of them, but I was mindful of the impact that unresolved and untold issues would have on them as they would inevitably manage to find their way out, even in unconscious ways.  I also wanted to be genuinely more open and more comfortable with my male peers.

I felt I absolutely needed to take drastic action.  I had tried conventional counselling and though it had somewhat helped, it never seemed to go far enough.  It always failed to give me the tools and techniques I thought I badly needed to get over my deeply rooted issues.

The first call with Marie put me at ease: she asked me a few questions to find out whether she could help and then explained the therapy to me.   Marie’s open, frank, no-nonsense approach, her warmth and sense of humour left me feeling confident and positive that she would be able to assist.

Marie is amazing: to the point and kind, she provided me with an incredible amount of support.  And it didn’t feel like I was having therapy, it all felt natural.  With her guidance and reassurance, she managed to help me see the wood from the tree, she got me to look at myself in a much more positive, constructive, and a much more loving way.  My relationship with my boys improved almost overnight.  How I relate to men has also gradually improved and it no longer is a source of anxiety, grief, frustration, and anger.

Now a year on, the positive effect, outcomes, and impact of the therapy are still unfolding; the benefits have gone far beyond my expectations and have infiltrated many other aspects of my life.  I can never thank Marie enough for her help.  She might argue ‘you did the hard work’, I could have never done it without her navigating me through this life-changing journey”  It is  gift that you have Marie, to help others in the way that you do.                    ~Valerie **  UK

The last three months have been the most uplifting and emotionally positive experiences I have ever had in my life. What a difference in how I feel within myself since starting the work with Marie and in such a short period of time.   The whole experience was like a vortex of negative energy within my mind and thoughts being sucked out like a vacuum cleaner and being replaced by positive thoughts,  and reprogramming my thought patterns.
I am quite emotional while writing this as it has totally changed my life, my thought patterns, my relationship with myself and others. 
I wish I had done this work with Marie Fraser years ago, what a transformation, especially my relationship with myself and how I look at life now. You have changed my life forever Marie.  Thank you”.         Phil **  UK

“………..For over twenty years, after the breakup of my marriage to an abusive man, I suffered from anxiety and overthinking, forever asking ‘why?’.

The sessions I had with Marie gave me the confidence and trust to open up.  I feel lighter and free, as though a weight has been lifted and my confidence has skyrocketed.  After twenty years of hanging on, I’ve now learned to let go”.

Hannah T. UK

“………..I was stressed from work and suffering from a general lack of confidence, self-doubt, and anxiety.  Your approach was relaxing and I felt safe.  I liked your humanness and warmth and did not feel judged but really supported.

I am much calmer, more grounded, less stressed and able to let go which has also benefitted my personal relationship with my partner”.

Katja J. UK

“……………….I was stuck and couldn’t seem to get on with anything.  I had very low motivation which was affecting my life as I was becoming depressed.

What surprised me about working with Marie was that she seemed to “get it” immediately. For that reason, I enjoyed working with her, it was easy and natural.
I have moved forward in my writing and now have an agent who is keen to publish”.

Marilyn C.  UK

My gift to you:

If you would like a self-confidence boost,  download my wonderful self-confidence visualisation here.

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Book a complimentary no strings attached 20-minute chat to discuss what’s going on for you.  Ask your questions,  gain some clarity and be certain of how I can help you. Simply complete this form to book a time slot.  

Marie xox

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