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SAY “YES” TO YOU™

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MARIE FRASER

THE BOUNDARY QUEEN

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“Daring to set boundaries is about having the courage to love ourselves, even when we risk disappointing others.  We can’t base our own worthiness on others’ approval.  Only when we believe deep down, that we are enough can we say ENOUGH!”

– Brene Brown

We women, skillfully and unselfishly play many different roles every single day without a second thought.  Without question, we attend to the wants and needs of the people we love and care for, often to our own detriment.  We say “Yes” to everyone, except ourselves, and

WHEN WE SAY “YES” TO EVERYONE ELSE WE ARE SAYING “NO” TO OURSELVES

Courageously we hold down jobs or run our own businesses whilst juggling dozens of spinning plates.  The sad thing is, we don’t acknowledge just how amazing we are because what we do has become so automatic, it’s what we do and who we are.

The result…..we lose sight of the person we really are.  Operating in this superwoman mode, with all the pushing and doing, not giving ourselves any time or attention, our boundaries are out of whack, all of which is making us unhappy, unfulfilled, overwhelmed and driving us to burnout.

Then, out of the blue, we get a sideways swipe, and a major life event happens.  Perhaps something dramatic like an affair, a divorce, not getting that promotion, or the longed-for leadership role, other relationship issues, a partner starting to work from home, a disability, a redundancy, or retirement to name a few.

Trying to make sense of it all, we wonder what happened to that feisty 24-year-old.  Where did she go? How did she end up here without noticing the loss of the past decade or more?

Everything feels alien and then you realise how much time you’ve wasted being somebody else.

Wondering who the bloody hell you are, feeling scared, stuck, anxious, and lost, perhaps even resentful, angry, and unappreciated.

Questioning what your purpose is, and which direction you should take.

I know, I was that woman!

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Hi I’m Marie

For many years I worked in high-powered demanding corporate positions in the legal sector both in the UK and overseas, and every job I had was a joy. Yes, truly.

I’ve experienced my fair share of trauma having twice been mugged and assaulted, my personal space was invaded when my front door was sledge-hammered down at 3:00 am whilst I slept, and if that wasn’t enough, I endured a long-term toxic, emotionally abusive relationship culminating in an extremely acrimonious divorce, and on their first birthday my youngest child was diagnosed with cerebral palsy.

These challenging and uncomfortable life experiences had a profound effect on my mental and emotional wellbeing.  My confidence, self-esteem and self-belief were shattered and feeling overwhelmed, stressed, and anxious, I was at rock bottom.

Now, as a certified coach, boundary management and communication specialist, I combine my training in clinical hypnotherapy, life coaching, coaching for women, NLP and iMA Communication, with my personal experiences to help and support professional women to pursue the career of their dreams with resilience and sold self-belief and confidently shine their light for the brilliant and amazing women they are.

It’s a privilege to support all the women I work with who go on to fulfil their desires and I would love to do the same for you.

I truly belief that WOMEN ARE BORN TO LEAD, and the time is NOW to move the needle for greater gender equality in the corporate world, and in life.

My children are my greatest achievement and bring me the deepest joy, I love spending time with them when diaries permit.

I share my space with Alf, a darling miniature wire-haird dachshund.

I’m a hobby photographer, travel is my weakness as is good bottle of Amarone or a pint of Guinness.

My personal values are COURAGE, FUN, FREEDOM, JUSTICE, INTEGRITY, and AUTHENTICITY.  They are the core of who I am and what I bring to my practice.

Do You….

 

 

  • Ever say YES when you really want to say NO?
  • Continually work way over your time that now it’s become expected and you don’t know how to stop?
  • Spin many plates but avoid asking for help?
  • Worry people won’t like you if you don’t go along with them?
  • Inconvenience yourself for other people?
  • Often feel you have no time for yourself?
  • Have an issue with someone’s behaviour, but let it go? Or even make excuses for them?
  • Excessively invest in the decisions, feelings, and outcomes of other people?
  • Feel used, unappreciated, unsupported, and overwhelmed in some or all areas of your life?
  • Feel the need to be needed?

Do You tell yourself….

  • I don’t want to create conflict because I might lose my, my job, my client, or my partner?
  • I can’t be bothered to say anything when something feels off  (perhaps because the other person never listens)?
  • People who set boundaries are unhelpful and selfish.
  • I don’t want to cause a drama by challenging someone’s behaviour or lack of respect to you?
  • People might dislike me if I’m not how they want me to be.
  • Other people’s wants and needs are more important than mine.
  • I’m not sure I can do this, what if I fail and get found out?
  • I don’t have the right to demand more.

“Your personal boundaries are the bedrock

of your happiness and success because

they put you in the driving seat of your life”.

~marie Fraser

Many clients come to me with either no set boundaries, their boundaries are weak and open to abuse, or they’re afraid to set their boundaries.

In all cases, they wonder why their relationships are not how they would like them to be, why they have such little confidence and self-esteem, or why they’re feeling overwhelmed, resentful, or angry.

Boundaries come in five general categories; Emotional, Material, Mental, Physical, and Sexual, and when any of them are transgressed, we’re in trouble.

Your personal boundaries are unique to you.  You have a right to set them and you have the right to expect people to respect them.

You may be anxious to implement your boundaries for fear of being perceived as unhelpful or selfish, or you may feel guilty that loved ones will think you don’t love them.

You may be afraid to set boundaries in your work life for fear of losing your job, not advancing in your career, or losing clients.

Your boundaries are crucial to your happiness and success in life.  They let people know you respect yourself, which in turn creates respect from others, how you want to be treated, and what behaviour is or is not acceptable to you.

If your boundaries are weak, inconsistent, or uncommunicated others can hardly be blamed for treating you in a way that causes you to feel used, unappreciated, resentful, obligated, unsupported, or angry.

Think about all the people you have a relationship with:  work colleagues, employer/employees, or clientsparents, siblings, other family members, partner, lover, children, friends, acquaintances. 

That’s a lot of relationships all of which will demand a different set of, or modified boundaries, to ensure that you maintain your autonomy, authenticity,  and self-respect.

Healthy boundaries help us to avoid, amongst other things:

*  Stress, anxiety and overwhelm

*  People pleasing

*  Toxic people, situations and toxic relationships

*  Feeling emotionally exhausted and disrespected

*  Burnout

*  Narcissists and narcissistic behaviour and abuse

*  Being misunderstood and taken advantage of

 

Some of the Ways to

Work with Marie

Intention

Say “Yes” to You™

This four-week programme is specifically geared toward identifying and rectifying:

*  Where your personal boundaries are weak or non-existent.

*  Where your false beliefs are holding you back.

*  Where your inner critic is keeping you stuck.

*   Where your lack of confidence and/or self-belief are preventing you from showing up as your best self.

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Resilience Mastery™ Embrace, Empower, Excel!

An online 6-session programme which will teach you how to become your most resilient self and bounce back more successfully from life’s challenges. 

Using science-based methods and with my support, this programme will empower you to adapt and grow in the face of adversity so you can fundamentally enhance your long-term wellbeing and live your most meaningful ideal life.

Hypnotherapy

Hypnotherapy

Stress and anxiety are incredibly debilitating and detrimental to your mental, emotional, and physical wellbeing. 

I’ve worked with clients from all walks of life, some who have been referred by chiropractors because their physical symptoms have been caused by stress and anxiety, not skeletal problems.

Hypnotherapy can be an extremely effective tool in alleviating stress, anxiety and associated problems.

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Power Session

Clients use this ninety-minute Power Session for many reasons.  Here are a few:

*  A problem that is troubling them, and has for some time, but despite their best efforts, they just seem unable to resolve satisfactorily.

*  Relationship issues either with friends, family, or work colleagues.

*  They want to be able to talk about an issue and flesh out ideas in a safe non-judgemental space with someone outside of their circle.

 

 

 

 

 

 

HOW I CAN HELP?

Sometimes we just need to try and make sense of the thoughts and feelings that are coursing through us.

Perhaps you can’t put your finger on it, but something is causing you to feel agitated when you want to feel peace.

Perhaps you are in a circle of overthinking which is exhausting you and not providing any answers.

Maybe you just need:

Someone to talk to.

Someone who will listen, really listen to what you have to say.

Someone who can understand you.

Someone you can trust and feel safe with.

Someone you can talk to without fear of judgment or reprisal.

If this is you...

then do book a no-obligation complimentary call to find out more.

why no client testimonials?

You may find testimonials from clients on many coaching and therapy websites, but there are reasons why I personally do not publish these.

I abide by the ethical code of the National Council of Integrative Psychotherapists which considers the use of client testimonials unethical.

I take the confidentiality of my clients very seriously, and in order to comply with advertising requirements, testimonials need to be able to be verified, and the process of verification would breach the confidentiality of my clients.

As a coach and therapist, it’s my aim to ensure that our work together is tailored specifically for you.

There is no cookie-cutter approach,  and therefore your experience of coaching or indeed therapy will not be the same as the next person.

However if you would like to know what people say about me, hop on to my LINKEDIN PROFILE and check out the recommendations.

If you would like to find out how your life can be transformed by coaching and/or therapy or to simply find out more about coaching, hypnotherapy,  and the way I work, lets have a cuppa and a chat.  Book your free 20-minute call HERE

If you can resonate with any of the above,  I invite you to book a free, no-obligation call with me to find out how I can help you.

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