“I’m a recovering perfectionist
and a good enoughist”
Perfectionism is a personality trait that will keep you stuck, small and forever lacking self-esteem.
Allow me to share with you some habits to overcome perfectionism:
1. Increase your self-awareness.
Perfectionists fear failure and fear thrives in the shadows. Acknowledge your worry or fear about making mistakes, your sensitivity to criticism, or your fear of saying or doing the wrong thing etc.
The next time you are in a perfectionist induced slump, stop what you’re doing, close your eyes, take some deep breaths and then imagine, on every out breath all that worry, fear and other negative feelings rushing right out of you and evaporating into the air.
The more you can learn about what you feel and what triggers those feelings, the more easily you will be able to let them go.
2. Re-evaluate your standards and expectations.
Are they realistic and achievable? Which areas of your life are more affected? Work or personal life? Consider what would it cost you to relax a standard or ignore a particular standard or rule? Ask yourself, do you need to control that particular situation? What will it feel like or what will happen if you let it go?
3. Our internal dialogue…..
which we listen to all the time, can be the cause of no end of issues. So, when you suddenly think ‘they’re not doing it properly’, or ‘they should do it this way or that way’, that internal voice is not the devine truth, but bad habits shouting from a neurological megaphone.
4. Perfection can be crippling…
so instead of wasting hours deciding what to do or how to do it make a decision and stick to it. This is an opportunity to learn new habits and grow, so even if, initially, it doesn’t go well, you can learn from the process and tweak for next time. No-one just gets in a car and drives you, have to practice.
5. Practice the Pomodoro Technique
Click on this link to watch a 5-minute YouTube video explaining the technique. It’s a great technique for overcoming procrastination, a cohort of perfectionism.
6. Meditation is fabulous for…..
clearing your head and bringing you into the present moment of now. Meditation clarifies your thoughts and gives you peace. It has shows to reduce anxiety and stress and if practiced regularly it can change the structure of your brain.
There are many YouTube videos for meditation. Find one that suits you and give it a go.
If you’d like more information, grab a cuppa and hop on a no-obligation call to find out how I can help and, more importantly, if I’m the right person for you.